Grief Observed

“Getting over it so soon? But the words are ambiguous. To say the patient is getting over it after an operation for appendicitis is one thing; after he’s had his leg off is quite another. After that operation either the wounded stump heals or the man dies. If it heals, the fierce, continuous pain will stop. Presently he’ll get back his strength and be able to stump about on his wooden leg. He has ‘got over it.’ But he will probably have recurrent pains in the stump all his life, and perhaps pretty bad ones; and he will always be a one-legged man. There will be hardly any moment when he forgets it. Bathing, dressing, sitting down and getting up again, even lying in bed, will all be different. His whole way of life will be changed. All sorts of pleasures and activities that he once took for granted will have to be simply written off. Duties too. At present I am learning to get about on crutches. Perhaps I shall presently be given a wooden leg. But I shall never be a biped again.”

C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed

By judesmum

3 comments on “Grief Observed

  1. I found your blog through Lucy Krull’s blog. I am so sorry for the loss of your little Jude. We lost one of our twins at birth last year. You are so right, you are never going to fully “get over it”. He is your son and you are living without a piece of your heart. Let yourself feel what you need to feel!

    • Hi Jana,
      I’m so sorry to hear about your precious son. I had a wee look at your blog and I’m so sorry that your angel didn’t make it. Carter is amazing, I can’t believe he’s doing so well after being born so early.
      I’ll keep in touch with your family through your blog.

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